Jul 28th, 2008 | dating, relationship | No Comments
Well, this is not exactly advice for a woman only, you can also apply for a man. Here is the situation. You crush with somebody and you want to ask them a date or just want to talk with them for more information. The most feasible way is just to call them. And when you know you want to call someone, it is obvious that you need to call the phone number. One of the best ways to approach someone is to demonstrate your good perconality and show that you are not some crazy lonely guy or psycho-girl. Here is the step in order:
Smile, speak slowly and make eye contact.
Ask the number in a friendly tone. For example, instead saying: “So, can I have your number?” Try something like: “I’d like to stay in touch. Is there a number where I can reach you? “Give your phone number if you want is certainly correct, but it puts you in the position to wait for their call. The best way to compensate for this position of passivity is to ask for their numbers. Or you can take and not give them your own. Just to give the illusion of a mysterious man.
Give your own number. Offer your number is a great way to deflect suspicions by putting the ball in the proverbial person on the other court. Placement rather than asking you also can be vulnerable first. You can earn points sensitivity by saying: “Look, I know these days, a beautiful woman like you should be careful, if you prefer, I
can give you a way to contact me. I’d love you to court the old and you call it, but I do not want to make you uncomfortable in asking you to give me your number if you’re not ready. ”
In a perfect world, you could say: “I’m not sure I want to call you, but what the hell, give me your number in case.” Of course, a line like that is not exactly flattering. You are probably better served by an expression of interest
but you give by saying something like this: “Listen, I really love you, but I am… (choose one: busy at work, travels a lot, out of a relationship, overcast of herpes, which is scheduled for surgery, about to be drafted)
. . . if this is correct, I would like to take your number and call you in a month or two more. “(Of course, if you use the line herpes, do not expect to be too enthusiastic.)
By doing this you are just simply keeping your options open without making someone else charges. If you feel really ambivalent to ask for a phone number, you can offer your own way, saying: “Why not take my number?” Thus, if the other person calls, you can go on his enthusiasm and nickel. After all, every one of us to be courted.
If you’re not interested, do not ask their number. If you ask a number, the assumption is that you intend to use it. Do not spread the misery as peanut butter. If you have absolutely no interest to another and do not intend to appeal, simply do not ask. Men in particular feel that not asking for a phone number is really tough but if you can limit yourself to “see around you” or “Nice to see you again,” you’ll spare yourself and another person some wear and tear.
Jun 30th, 2008 | dating, relationship, love | No Comments
What is the different between men and women in a relationship? Well, before you answered that question I want you to see this scenario first. Have you ever been on the situation where even though the physical attraction feels perfect but you just did not connect with your partner on an emotional level? It might fun for a man but it’s temporary.
Why? Because, for most of women they need an emotional connection more than just a physical attraction in a relationship (in these case I am not speaking for them who just looking for sex). They even need more than just a physical attraction just to
accept go on a date (correct me if I wrong here ladies).
So how we can connect that emotional connection? As you know physical attraction happens pretty fast. The attraction is made just in a split second, you just see her eyes and she saw your eyes, then you smile at her, she smile back at you. Well, that’s easy. Wait, after the eyes part get over things get a little more complicated. At this moment when you decide to take a move on her you must start to build an emotional connection. And it requires a conversation. The problem is when you’re strongly attracted to somebody, making a conversation could be something difficult.
Is it really that hard? Actually is not. Making an emotional connection with a woman is about finding something in common. Finding something that both of you can relate to, and that actually means something to you both. Here’s an example:
You: So, what do you do?
The Girl you wanted for a date: I’m a pediatrician.
You: (laughing) I always enjoy watching ER on the TV! Is it as interesting as it looks like Gorge Clooney?
That’s what we call an emotional connection. You tell her what you like to watch while she explains what she is doing for a living. Do the same stuff on your own situation by relating something you feel, you know or you have with something that you see on her (not the physical attraction, for a moment forget about her big boops). But if you (men) could not found anything that you can relate to each other than you might start to think that may be you are not meant to each other. Don’t force something that not meant for you.
Jun 19th, 2008 | marriage | No Comments
“How do you know when you’ve met the right one?”
Almost everyone asks this question at some point in their lives; unfortunately, there are not too many who get a concrete answer. But if you’re reading this article, then you’re one of the lucky few.
Interestingly, the criteria for choosing a spouse can be boiled down to just four characteristics. If you can find somebody with all four then it’s highly likely that you’ve found your life partner.
1) What is This Person’s Core Values?
Before you decide to marry someone, make sure that they are fully committed to some kind of objective moral and ethical standard. Whether we realize it or not, everyone has some kind of core value that is central to their personality. And when push comes to shove, that value is going to be the most important thing in the world to that person.
For example: Jerry’s core value is adventure. When Jerry starts to date Diana, he happens to be volunteering at the local Emergency Room. He goes there every night, holds people’s hands, calms them down. And Diana’s thinking to herself that Jerry must have a heart of gold if this is how he’s spending his spare time. Now, Jerry might really have a heart of gold. But he’s volunteering because of his love for adventure. The ER is filled with action, it’s exciting. So right now,
Jerry’s adventurousness happens to be expressing itself in a kind way. But that could change. Jerry might stop volunteering, and start trying other adventures that Diana may find unpleasant, dangerous, or even unethical.
However, if Jerry’s core value is a commitment to goodness and caring, then everything he does will rotate around that, including his marriage. And Diana will be a very lucky woman if she marries him.
So how do you get to know the true Jerry? Surprisingly, it’s not that difficult. No matter what a person’s core value is, you will see him or her sacrificing for it on a daily basis. If Jerry’s core value is adventure, then he might risk an accident in order to speed through an intersection or arrive late at work because he followed a police chase. If Diana follows him carefully, she’ll see that he places adventure above other important things on his list of priorities.
But if Jerry’s core value is goodness, then Diana will see him give up on certain things in order to be kind. If the waiter mixes up his order, he’ll say thank you and eat the dish anyway. He’ll let the other guy cross the intersection first, or he might be late to work because he drove a little old lady home with her groceries. If Diana follows him carefully, then she’ll see him let go of some of his own desires in order to take care of other people.
So look for someone who is committed at the core to a higher set of values that you can appreciate.
2) Does This Person Treat Others Well?
Number two is obvious: You want to marry someone who is going to take care of you and treat you well. How to figure it out?
Simple. Spend time with this person, and pay attention to how they treat others whom they don’t necessarily care about because they’re not trying to charm them. Do they thank the attendant who pumped gas for them? Are they courteous to people at checkout counters? Do they curse out people who don’t deliver on time, like telephone operators or overworked waitresses? Do they tend to drive aggressively, as if there’s no one else on the road?
Ask yourself questions like these and take note of the answers - because they reflect characteristics that will come out down the line. Most people don’t guard themselves so carefully that they’ll hide how they treat others. So watch them, and you’ll know how they’re going to treat you after you’re married.
3) Do We Communicate Well With Each Other?
In other words, make sure that you understand each other. This may seem obvious, but it’s not. Sometimes you can see a couple in a fight and they argue for an hour, two hours, maybe even overnight. And then, at the end of round 16, it turns out that the whole thing was just a misunderstanding: “Oh, I thought you meant that…That’s not what you meant? Oh, then we agree.”
Although on an occasional basis this can happen to anyone, if it’s happening constantly then it’s not a good sign because that may not change. If you’re constantly misunderstanding each other, then you might want to put this relationship on hold for a while.
4) Are We Physically Attracted to Each Other?
Physical attraction is an essential part of marriage. You cannot marry someone if you aren’t physically attracted to them. And while men arrive at this conclusion somewhat quickly, women should give themselves some more time. Very often, a woman may not feel attracted to a man initially, but after she gets to know him she finds him much more attractive than before.
A word of caution: Although physical attraction is essential, you can’t base a marriage on physicality. Whatever is going on physically is meant to be an expression of something deep that is happening on the emotional and spiritual level.
The rule is - make sure that physical attraction is there, but don’t get swept away by it. The other three characteristics are just as important, if not more so.
So there you have it. The next time you date someone, put what you’ve learned here into practice. It’ll save you a lot of time and heartache, and you might find yourself walking down the aisle faster than you think.
Jun 1st, 2008 | relationship, love | No Comments
What is a soul mate about? It is about a couple who seem to be made for each other. But this soul mate is often looks like a myth than a reality. Why? Because for some people it is hard enough to find a soul mate. But actually you can do a certain step if you want to find your soul mate.
First, you must be honest with yourself, know who you are and what is your personality. This question depends heavily on your self esteem. Always keep in mind a good image of yourself is the very essence of being ready for your love!
Second, Remember that if you’re ready to meet the love of your life, it will not come for you, because everything depends on how you want it to happen. Elders say that when you really want something, the whole universe will help you to make your wish come true.
After you take a good look at yourself, hear what Mother Nature whispers in the ear on finding someone appearance and some physical characteristics that suits you best. Did you know that Soul mate are often look the same one another? This Soul mate may be very different in appearance but keep looking deep inside and you can find something similar? There is no doubt that something called chemistry that makes a soul mate connect and harmonize everything. For example: facial expressions, gestures, reactions.
Obviously that none of us wants to become haunted, obsessed by an ideal of love that never shows up, right? That’s why you have to cut the belt, free your mind of your desire (which has already put to work the invisible engines of the Universe, believe it or not!) and do your usual stuff.
And here comes the tough part: waiting! Wait for a while and let the Nature action for how long as it takes. Take into account that you have already helped Nature with your faith and your strong action. It’s a mutual thing. In love, as in everything, you get what you give.
Finally, let me share a secret with you: Do not tell anyone you are about to meet your soul mate. The deepest desires must not be shared until they are realized. Any interference May disturb you take a good image of yourself, let your desire grow stronger, keep describing in mind about your soul mate, staying focused on what you have to do, let your mind free.
May 3rd, 2008 | dating, relationship | No Comments
Did you want to get rid of your date as soon as possible? It’s easy. Just whining in front of your date, then you don’t need 10 days to lose your date. You may need less than that. But what is whining? Dr. Joy Brown explain That whining is the obnoxious, nasal complaining that serves no purpose other than to say, “Pay attention to me because I’m helpless and weak and irritating, and I can’t get your attention based on strength or knowledge or reason so I’ll drive you crazy by pitching my voice and my grievance in such a way that you’ll do anything to have me stop, but you’ll hate both yourself and me in the morning.”
You may hear this very often in our daily conversation:
“Damn, my boss was killing me!” (Well stop whining and get another job, will you!)
“I just wanna scream, The traffic was horrible!” (Well try to move to a country side, this is a modern city get used to it!)
“I didn’t have enough money to pay the bill, all prices are went up!” (You and the rest of the world feel the same way)
“Damn, my candidate fail on the election” (So, all you have to do is just wait another 4 years)
You see the point of the ‘whining’ concept is not about the complain, but its about the ‘no purpose’ concept. Your date is not a trash can. She or he want to release their stress by going out. Then try to fulfill that to keep your date and relationship.
So, if you have a date, or if you are planning to ask some one out just leave whining to 3-year-olds who don’t want to take a bath. And If you’ve got a legitimate complaint, say it clearly and cogently and respectfully and see what you can do to solve the problem. Because the worse part of whining is because it makes you personality looks helpless and weak. And I can a sure you that no body wants to spend the rest of their live with people who have a helpless and weak character.
